Now that Valentine’s Day is over, you’re probably sick and tired of hearing about romantic relationships. So let’s shift the focus onto your relationship with yourself.
Do you have a good relationship with yourself? Are you as kind, compassionate, and loving with yourself as you are to others? Would you ever say the things you say to yourself to anyone else? If your answer is no, take a minute and think about how you’re treating yourself and then make the proper adjustments. As the saying goes, you can never truly love anyone until you can love yourself.
Of course, this is easier said than done. These days, especially with social media, people are constantly comparing themselves to others and many times feeling inadequate. More and more we feel the need to impress others, to get more “likes”, more validation from the outside world. Yet, no matter how hard you try to get this validation, it never feels like it’s enough. Why is that? Well, it all goes back to that whole “loving yourself” concept. If you don’t love yourself first, nobody can fill that void for you. You’ll always feel less than satisfied when you’re looking for external acceptance before you even accept yourself.
Start off by treating yourself at least as well as — if not better than — you treat others. The next time you have a negative thought about yourself, say it out loud and listen to how bad it sounds. You probably wouldn’t say such things anyone else because it would be too mean. Be aware of these negative thoughts and then try to spin them into positive thoughts instead.
Take a minute and think about what you have done lately to impress yourself. That’s right, impress yourself. Stop worrying about what everyone else thinks and instead do something that makes you say, “Wow…I did that!” It’s one of the best feelings in the world. Kids do it all the time. But for some reason, as we become adults, we forget about that sense of pride and accomplishment in even the smallest of things. It could be anything—0vercoming a challenge, learning something new, reaching a goal, etc. Stop worrying about what everyone else thinks and make yourself proud.
So how’s your relationship with yourself going? I’d love to hear about all the great things you’ve done lately.